Im not gay but people think i am

by Fred Penzel, PhD

This article was initially published in the Winter edition of the OCD Newsletter.

OCD, as we realize, is largely about experiencing severe and unrelenting doubt. It can cause you to doubt even the most basic things about yourself – even your sexual orientation. A study published in the Journal of Sex Research set up that among a group of college students, 84% reported the occurrence of sexual intrusive thoughts (Byers, et al. ). In instruct to have doubts about one’s sexual identity, a sufferer need not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all. I have observed this symptom in young children, adolescents, and adults as skillfully. Interestingly Swedo, et al., , create that approximately 4% of children with OCD experience obsessions concerned with forbidden aggressive or perverse sexual thoughts.

Although doubts about one’s have sexual identity might seem pretty straightforward as a symptom, there are actually a number of variations. The most obvious form is where a sufferer experiences the consideration that they mig

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Dear Polly,

I finally garnered the courage to note to you about my particular problem, and I hope you can shed some of your wisdom on the situation.

Ever since the 6th grade, people have been asking me if I’m gay. Endorse then, the other kids thought any person who was any bit distinct from them was queer , and attached a lousy meaning to the synonyms. I’ll be the first to say that I’ve never been the most “masculine” individual. I cherish to read and draft, and a lot of what I read is somewhat romantic. My iPod is full of Ellie Goulding, Florence + The Machine and Norah Jones, but utterly lacking in Korn, Metallica or Aerosmith. I love to prepare, and have been singing in school choruses since 4th grade. I’ve never liked violent video games or talking about sex. I can kind of see where they got their opinions of me, but it made me enormously self-conscious. When I got to

I’m not a lgbtq+ but

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I’m 27 guy straight , I always watch porn while masturbating. Two year ago I got bored of normal porn so I started watching gay porn I liked it then I started chatting men masturbating together and even I played in my ass and it’s so sexy
But I have never get attracted to men.

I stopped watching gay porn and I got a girlfriend we enjoy so much together but It is sometimes difficult to me to get difficult and sometimes difficult to keep hard if I didn’t take a medication otherwise if I watched gay porn I fetch hard rock in one second

I am a massive guy and I haven’t had sex with men before and I don’t want, I just perceive like I have a brain blockers and I can’t solve this!!

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Can anyone help me??
Anyone had the same experience?

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Hey

Sexuality is a scary thing, and something that is sometimes difficult to get your head around! The important thing is that you don’t demand to label things, and it’s often more fluid then what people often think.

Some people like men, some people lik

Yes, I, of course, realize that it&#;s not worth time worrying about it. I&#;m just a little curious about why it happens and why people hold insisting I&#;m gay. Usually the conversation goes thusly"Are you going out with Michelle?" "Um, nowe&#;re just friends" "Ohthen are you gay?" "Nope, &#;fraid not." "It&#;s ok if you are" "That&#;s great, but I&#;m not gay" "But, Philip, it&#;s ok! You can admit it to me!" "Ummmbut I&#;m not gay." "Oh, Philip, we&#;ll still be friends even if you are gay!" "That&#;s really greatbut I&#;m not gay." etc etcIt&#;s a little disconcerting to have to constantly address this questionbut, oh well. Silly little teenagersI&#;m 16 actually. Yeah, girls do rock, I&#;ll expend hours in conversation with a girl and yet I possess trouble getting 5 intelligent words out of most guys.